Stuck in a Moment You Can’t Get Out Of

Ugh, sorry. I don’t even really like U2 (all their songs sound the same, amiright?!), but whenever I think of repetition, I think of this song (and then I get moderately angry that the title ends in a preposition).


Do you find yourself in the same situations over and over again? That’s not by accident. Every situation we’re put in is a moment for us to learn something about ourselves and our place here in the world. If you’re repeating the same situations and getting the same results, you’re doing it wrong.


Kairos moments are moments in time where we stop to notice something is happening. “Kairos” is one of the Greek words for time, qualitative time—time as a moment or occasion as opposed to time as chronological.


Kairos moments can be big, and good, moments in our lives: going off to college, getting married, etc. But they’re also those moments you notice that might feel a little dèjá vu: why does this person keep betraying me? Why do I always seem to date people who treat me poorly? Why am I falling short on my budget again this month?


The good news? Kairos moments don’t have to happen over and over again. The bad news? You probably actually have to do something (i.e.: make a change) so they don’t happen over and over again.


And more good news. There’s these really smart people who’ve devised simple steps you can take to help guide you through a Kairos.


  1. Observe the situation. (What’s going on here? What’s my role in this? How am I feeling about all this?)
  2. Reflect on what you maybe should probably be learning from the situation. (i.e.: What is God saying to you and what are you going to do about it?).
  3. Discuss with a group so you don’t become a hermit and set unreasonable expectations for yourself (Here’s what God might be saying to me, so I’d like to get your guys’ input).
  4. Make a plan, and share it with your group (Here’s what I’m going to do about it).
  5. So then your group can hold you accountable to your plan.
  6. DO IT. ACT. MAKE A CHANGE. SAY YES, SAY NO, DON’T SAY ANYTHING, GO FOR IT, DO NOTHING. (In other words, do your plan, duh).

Oh yeah, and throughout all these steps, it’s probably helpful to PRAY. Talk to God, since, you know, you’re trying to figure out what He’s saying to you. These steps aren’t foolproof, and you might often have to go through them a couple times for the same situation, but it’s better to take steps toward progress than listen to the same U2 song on repeat, right?


For more information about The Learning Circle (that’s what those steps up there are called when they’re put into a fun little circle shape), visit


*Author’s Note: All comments about U2 are my own. I have no ill will toward U2 and respect their talent as musicians.

**Another Author’s Note: Please note that I simplified the Learning Circle process to what I would consider very bare bones. There’s a lot that goes into this, so you should really visit that site I told you about, it’s pretty awesome.


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